I'm Regina Small. I'm a writer and editor in NYC. Interests include: sci-fi/fantasy, summertime daydrinking, trying to be a better person, fancy manicures, cooking, absurd humor, philosophy and the role of irony in the modern world.
I don’t have complaints about Tinder because I’ve been married for longer than it’s existed and have never used it. But, yo, let me help you get laid more by explaining a thing:
Not all Tinder users are just exclusively on Tinder for hook-ups and casual sex, at least if my friends are any indication. But, even if they all were, that wouldn’t mean that sexually explicit messages are immediately appropriate or welcomed.
Being down to fuck someone isn’t the same thing as being down to fuck anyone. Like, no woman is looking for some random average-looking dude with no personality to flop around on top of them for a minute and a half and leave without making them cum. Women, especially women looking just for sex—and I say this from experience—,want to fuck men who can get them off, and the men who fuck best are men who care about a woman’s pleasure. And the single biggest indicator that a man gives a shit is his ability and willingness to read, respect, and act on a woman’s signals. If you can’t do that in a fucking text message, the chances you’ll pull it off in bed are slim to none.
So, when an orgasm is potentially just a swipe away, if the average woman is given the choice of a dude who”ll take 5 minutes to treat her like a damn person and find out if there’s chemistry and what she’s looking for / her boundaries are (and, in doing so, proves he respects her), why would she ever waste her time on someone only interested in treating her like a warm hole like this desperate, walking penis named Bart (via straightwhiteboystexting)?
All I’m saying is, don’t be Bart.
I tend to get really intense acting-crushes. 2013 was the year of Tatiana Maslany and 2014 looks like the year of Tobias Menzies. I don’t know if any of you are watching Outlander but he’s slaying, and I am in love and it feels terribly irresponsible because he’s playing the worst person ever. But he does it so well.
Also someone needs to get him reading audiobooks because his voice D A M N